This is an excerpt from my course “God Said.” —CB
Like all proper relationships, romantic relationships operate on the basic principle of selfish human interaction, the principle of trade. To put this in memorable terms: The realm of romance, like that of economics, is governed by Say’s Law. Supply constitutes demand. What you produce (supply) is what you have to trade in the marketplace (demand).
Say’s law does not mean that if you create something, people will want it—or “if you build it, they will come.” It means that if you want to trade with others, you have to produce something with which to trade—something of value. The values you create—whether computers or works of art or educational services—constitute your demand on the goods and services created by others. What you create is what you have to offer in trade for what others create.
The same is true in romance. If you want a relationship of mutual love, you have to produce something with which to trade—something that a good person will want and be able to love. The one and only demand you can exert in the realm of romance is what you have made of yourself. That is your “supply”; it’s what you bring to the table.
This is not an analogy; it is the literal truth. And it applies to both mind and body.
As I mentioned earlier [in the course], we are beings of self-made soul—and self-maintained body. We are responsible for what we choose to do with each of these elements. If we want good intellect and moral character—intellect and character that good people will be attracted to—then we have to make the right choices and take the right actions to achieve those values. Likewise, if we want to be (and/or stay) physically attractive to someone special, then we have to act accordingly. . . .